Getting a college roommate is one of the scariest things going into college. You never know if you’ll end up having the dream roommate or a roommate that’s an absolute nightmare. All roommates are bound to bicker but a lot of issues can be solved if you know the right way to solve them. Here are some common roommate issues and how to solve them before they happen.
Their Side is a Mess
A messy room may not bother everyone but for some, it could be a big issue. I’m not a clean freak by any means but a little clutter can bother me sometimes. Instead of making accusations, try suggesting to make a cleaning schedule for the room.
“Hey, I think it would be really beneficial if we had a cleaning schedule! I’ve been losing some things in the room lately so I thought it would help keep track of our things.”
This is a great way to suggest a schedule but not sound too pushy. The last thing you want to do is to make your roommate feel attacked. You want them to be on your side and placing the blame isn’t going to get you anywhere.
If the cleaning schedule idea doesn’t go over too well, you might have to be a bit more confrontational.
“I know both have us been pretty busy lately but our room isn’t looking too hot. It’ll only take a few minutes to clean so let’s just both tackle the mess now while we’re here.”
If this doesn’t work, you could always be very upfront, but it might not exactly get you anywhere because no one likes being accused of anything. Try to be as respectful as possible even if the mess isn’t yours because a clean room is a happy room!
They Always Leave The Light On
Every person has different needs, and you could say every person sees in a different light. If you aren’t happy that your roommate keeps the light on while you’re trying to sleep or she turns it off if you’re trying to get work done, try suggesting they use a different light source or find a way to compromise.
“Hey is it okay if I turn the light off? You can turn your lamp on if you’d like or you can borrow my extra light if that helps.”
If they aren’t exactly too keen on your suggestions, you might have to take matters into your own hands and get creative. Perhaps using a sleep mask while you sleep or moving to another room to work on homework may be the best solution.
They Keep You From Sleeping
Sleep is very important, and without it some people can be very cranky. If your roommate is keeping you up for various odd reasons, whether that be snoring or having guests over at late hours, being confrontational is the only way you can really solve this issue.
“Hey, I’ve been having some trouble sleeping because of (insert reason why), is there any way we can compromise so we both get what we want?”
If confronting people isn’t really your thing, you could always try solving the issue yourself by staying at a friend’s house or in another room, but this isn’t really the best solution. It always helps to maybe have a friend in the room or even asking an RA to help moderate the conversation is good.
They Borrow Your Stuff Without Asking
Find that your stuff goes “missing” occasionally and it mysteriously winds up back on your bed? Your roommate is probably borrowing a few of your things. If you don’t mind sharing the best way to solve this issue is by letting them know that you don’t mind.
“Hey I know you used (blank), I don’t mind if you borrow something of mine but just ask next time.”
If you aren’t okay with lending certain things, and they keep winding up missing the best way to solve this issue is to either find a place to lock up your stuff or get an RA involved.
They Control The Temperature In The Room
Not pleased that your roommate keeps the temperature barely above freezing? You can be angry all you want, but saying something is better than waiting for the issue to solve itself while you wrap yourself in several layers of blankets.
“Do you mind if we turn the heat up in here? I know you’re hot but maybe we can open a window or you can borrow my fan?”
Being able to compromise in situations like this is crucial, and down the road, they’ll feel more comfortable asking you to compromise on certain issues.
They Are Always Having Guests Over
I’m all for inviting friends over, but having them over at all hours of the day can be a little much. This is a pretty common roommate problem and is easily solved with a conversation. Let them know how you feel about it and what exactly they can do to make it so that you both win.
“I don’t mind when (insert guest name here) comes over but do you mind letting me know before hand when guests are coming over?”
The best way to solve any roommate issue is always by talking it out. Although it may be hard and awkward, it’s turn out better for both parties in the long run.
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